Pick Your Peer Group to Retire Rich

By Mikael | 269 views

Have you ever considered the fact that your limited success might be caused by the group of friends that you have and that by replacing the friends with another group you can literally change your financial destiny?

Now don’t get me wrong. When I first learned about this fact I was stunned and very resentful of the fact that the people I call my friends might actually be holding me back and limiting my chances of financial success and the likelihood of me making a lot of money.

Despite the fact that I didn’t like the sound of this “wisdom” I have also learned that even though you might not believe in something or agree with something, you should always listen and evaluate the message as keeping an open mind can sometimes lead to great discoveries.

Why “Bad” Peers Are Limiting You

Since I found the statement very controversial I had to look into it a little deeper as I were in no way ready to “give up” my friends.

Do you know how it is to have a feeling of knowing that something is probably true but you don’t want it to be? Like e.g. when you look at your closest friends and see that most of them are working a 9 to 5 job, are struggling to make ends meet and when thinking about it you might know that these people are not benefitting your goal of becoming wealthy and financially independent?

I found that there were actually something true in the statement that you are very much affected by your friends and peers and even though they might be incredible and nice people, they might be holding you back and affecting your ability to reach your goals.

For most people it can be difficult to see and accept that this is true but most can relate to another situation like e.g. smoking. Groups of people that go together tend to do the same things. So if the majority of your close friends and the people you respect most in life are smokers then chances are that you are smoking as well. For most people this makes sense and is “a known fact”. Some might call it “group pressure” or “peer pressure” but in many cases the “pressure” can be so very subtle that you don’t even realize that it is there.

So if you look at your 5 closest and most trusted friends, do you think that there might be something about this that is true? Are you in some way a reflection of what your friends are doing and what your friends believe to be true?

I found that this was the case in my situation and that all of my close friends didn’t smoke and that I didn’t smoke. My friends were all believers of the idea that to live a good life you would need a safe secure job with a good paycheck at the end of each month. Guess what I believed?

As humans we want to “belong” to a group and in order to do so we will need to fit into the group norms and ideas. If we’re too different from the group we’re going to be excluded from it. Since our instincts know this we try to act within the norms. It is not strange at all but it can be very limiting and something that you must be aware of if you have a dream and you want to achieve it.

Having the Right Peer Group Will Make You Succeed

Just as when you are in a group with people that are different from what you want to become and the way that is indirectly limiting you, then becoming a part of a group of people that are like you would want to become can propel you forward very quickly.

The reason is that if you do not try to adapt to the norm of the new group they do not want you in it and you will find yourself excluded. Since your subconscious mind don’t want this to happen you will start acting and doing what is required to become someone that belongs in that group.

Guess what will happen? The change in your actions and mentality will push you to become what it is that you had set out to become but that you have been struggling with because you belonged to a group where that was outside their norms.

Do You Need to Make Changes to Your Group of Friends?

Now if you are like I was you are probably thinking that you are definitely not interested in making any changes to the group of friends that you have. You want to hang out with these same people every weekend at the pub or at the ballgame and since you have know these people since high school you can’t just “replace them”.

I am here to tell you that you CAN but whether you can or you can’t is not really the issue. The issue is whether you are willing to realize that this might be one of your problems and whether you are ready to do something to change it.

Whatever you decide is up to you but I would like to share with you what I have done since I realized that this might be one of my constraints.

I didn’t just run out and told all of my friends to get lost as they are still people that I care about. Instead I have started a process of looking for new friends that are like what I want to become and I try to spend as much time with people like that as I can.

The fact that I am now spending time on other and new people has naturally resulted in me spending less time with the people that I spent time with in the past. So you can call it a slow “transformation”. The best thing is that the process is happening at my pace and for some reason nobody seems to feel offended by it.

The new people that I am starting to see are beginning to like me better because I am becoming more like them and the old friends are no longer as eager to spend time with me because I am starting to be different from them.

I hope that I have made it clear that I am not here to tell you what to do or not to do. All I am asking you is to take a step back and look around you. There might be factors that are limiting you that you are not currently seeing because you haven’t focused on them. Now you can…

To Your Success,
Mikael

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